Yesterday Mike and I had a milestone parenting decision. Raegen was invited over to swim at a friend's house. Unfortunately, I only know the girl's mother from meeting her a few times at the school and have only met her father once. The mother was not going to be home and there was going to be 3 or 4 more friends there as well. The invitation gave us a 2 hour notice to this pool party and came from the mouth of a 6 yr old, not her parents. Mike and I decided we did not feel comfortable with this and she would not be going. We let Raegen know that we understood her disappointment, but her safety was our number one priority.
Well, as you can imagine Rae, cried and screamed as if someone was cutting her arms off. My heart ached. I too know what it feels like to want something so bad, regardless how silly or insignificant it may seem to others, and not get it. The little voice in my head told me to just let her go, she'll be fine, but my mommy instinct said "Stick to your guns!" As I sat there listening to Raegen scream and cry and beg "for the answerrrrrr to chaaaaange" I hurt for her, but I was proud that Mike and I came together, made a decision and stuck with it.
So the raod seems so long, some of the road looks dark, bleak and full of potholes, but I look forward to the hilly part that gives you that feeling in your stomache just has you pass the crest of the hill! Here's to holding on!
3 comments:
You're a good mommy! Rae and Ben are lucky to have you; not as lucky as A-cat is to have me (tongue in cheek), but lucky none the less to have a crazy-fun-smart mamma! LOL!!
When the s*** hits the fan this Mom can be a Mom! Mom is the person that kept her from drowning today. A friend is the person who helped her pick out the bathing suit to do it in.
Good job, Mommy!!! Doing right by our children is not always easy and you don't always get to see the reward, but you HAVE to listen to those instincts. Way to go! It is hard to be the one making the tough calls, but no one said being a parent was going to be easy. Way to stick to your guns!!!
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